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How to act in the best interests of your children in a divorce

On Behalf of | Mar 5, 2013 | Uncategorized |

Divorced parents in Arizona may know that it can be difficult to keep emotions in check in front of their children when dealing with such issues such as child custody, visitation schedules and child support. However, a recent article covered some tested strategies that may successfully allow both parents to work together for the best interests of their children during and after a divorce.

First, it is essential that each parent be very careful not to disparage the other for any reason, particularly in front of the children. Each parent must make sure that their first priority is preserving the love that the child has for the other parent. Another important practice is to completely avoid using a child as a messenger between parents. This automatically puts the child in the middle of both parents and this must be avoided at all costs.

Additionally, it is important not to air one’s financial concerns to the children. They do not need to know about any financial issues going on between their parents, particularly as they relate to child support. Another important and very difficult thing for many newly divorce parents to accept is that one parent no longer has any control over what happens while the children are in the company of the other parent. Both parents need to accept that they may have limited control over what an ex-spouse says or does with their children.

Finally, make sure that the children never feel badly for spending time with their other parent. Do not indulge them with any sad stories of how lonely it was without them in the house, but welcome them warmly when they come back.

Divorce is often an emotionally draining experience. That is why it is essential to get the right information in order to navigate the complicated legal issues that may arise, particularly all of the legal issues surrounding child custody and visitation schedules. This will assure that the best possible result is achieved for all concerned.

Source:, “Keeping Kids Out Of The Middle,” Elizabeth Denham, Feb. 22, 2013